Disciplines were created to offer insights like:
consideration and gratitude-
when they loose sight of the meaning they represent and become reactions that are cruel and non-compassionate
they become psychologically abusive.
Read: The Drama Of The Gifted Child by Alice Miller
Psychological abuse and "adultism" are the abuses of our age.

Here's a small overview of:
The Art of
Disarming the Bully

Every Bully yearns to be shown kind discipline
from the peaceful ones they attack.
They don't believe it is possible to be gentle and strong at the same time.
They want an "out with dignity" and the faith that someone has in them to be better than their actions at the time.
To see them as a person who would not need to act that way,
without shame or blame.
To remain centered in the eyes of a bully
and direct them to what is best for everyone,
because it is also what's best for them.
Lovingly acknowledging that they are hurt
without seeing that as a weakness.
We are true to our nature when given the understanding and empowerment to rise to the occasion.

For the sake of the community, as well as our own soul growth-
through interdependent understandings.
Modeling inner discipline is the only way to empower
and inspire kids towards what is best for them-
and every kid wants that for themselves...
no matter how they act.
The action is not who they are,

Wisdom and kindness that is not affraid to be honest and lovingly confront for the sake of ones growth, at the right moment when it will do the best good and be the most understood by the person.

Understanding over punishment.

Negotiations over orders.

Wise re-direction always lead to the best behaviors & habits...
eventually.