Checkin' In..

True, it all comes down to the golden rule:
Treating others how you wish to be treated.

However, what if people have very different ideas of what that is?
This could cause more than a little confusion and in fact it has.

Here's an example: you were raised in a family who hugged a lot
but your friend was raised in a family that only hugged on special occasions.
You see them now after not seeing them for a while and you go out to hug them
and they feel very uncomfortable and back off -
making you feel rejected.

What can we do about this "awkward moment"?

We can simply know that it is important to check in
and ask..."How 'bout a hug?" and they say "hand shake!"
And the connection is made in a way that feels good to everyone concerned.

Seems that if together - we focus on amending this golden rule to a platinum one that reflects
how unique we all are with all kinds of standards for what is appropriate, when.
Especially in different cultures around the world, we need to honor our differences
and find our middle ground where we can both be comfortable
- and connect - that's what we are here for.

It's all about our connection - this is where God lives and where we are all one -
connected always and yet each so unique - we are all one & the same.

It is most important to keep "checkin' in"
with yourself - with others...
and find out how others would like to be treated -
this way we keep the connection & keep co-creating communication
with compassion and kindness that actually helps to inspire
others to empower themselves.

What do you do when you are presented with someone who's acting like a bully?

We all know people who act this way: someone who makes mean jokes,
or treats others in a way that aims at devaluing who they are.
In every interaction they try to convince others that whatever they have/do/bring is better.
Someone who uses ignorance, fear, or having money - to bully people.
Some are Doctors, Lawyers, or Automotive Mechanics - who use their expertise over someone -
who thinks they need what they have and thinks they can give them what they need - so they put up with it.
We have all felt those who take advantage of others when in the role of:
a supervisor, a boss, a teacher, a parent, an older sibling,
even a so-called "friend" - who really treats the other person like a bully.

These are SACRED CONTRACT relationships
where the person being bullied agrees to it for whatever reason - until they don't.

The SACRED CONTRACT is that you get in that kind of situation -
NOT that you stay stuck in it.
Our healing is in how we get out of it as we change inwardly
we grow because of HOW we go about it.

Remember...
they treat themselves even worse than they treat those they bully -
whether they show it or not.

If this is what's happening now in your life read this:
The Art Of Disarming the Bully (within and around us